Stereotypes about lesbian relationships have been around forever. Some are laughably ridiculous, others are maddeningly reductive, but all of them fail to capture the depth and diversity of what it means to love and live as a lesbian. These tropes don’t just show up in movies and TV—they sneak into casual conversations, memes, and even marketing campaigns. Let’s unpack a few of these stereotypes and remind the world why they need a serious update.
1. “Lesbians Move in After the First Date”
Ah, the infamous U-Haul joke. While it’s true that many lesbians value deep emotional connection, this cliché ignores the fact that relationships—of any kind—move at a pace unique to the people involved. Not every queer woman is rushing to combine IKEA furniture. And if they are? Let’s not act like straight couples don’t do the same after three Bumble dates.
2. “All Lesbians Are Butch or Lipstick”
The media loves a binary: you’re either wearing a flannel shirt with combat boots or strutting in heels with red lipstick. Real life? It’s a whole spectrum. Some of us are sporty, some artsy, some business-chic, and some rock a little of everything depending on the vibe. At Eros Song - best lesbian sex toys brand, we design our toys to honor all identities—whether you're rocking Dr. Martens or Louboutins.
3. “Lesbians Hate Men”
Let’s set the record straight (pun intended). Being a lesbian isn’t about hating men; it’s about loving women. Many lesbians have fulfilling friendships, family bonds, and professional relationships with men. This tired trope just perpetuates unnecessary division. Spoiler: lesbians, like everyone else, appreciate respect and kindness from any gender.
4. “Lesbians Don’t Really Have Sex”
The number of movies and shows that reduce lesbian intimacy to steamy eye contact or a soft kiss is mind-boggling. We’re here to set the record straight (again): lesbian sex is creative, passionate, and wildly diverse. It’s why we developed Doupeak, our flagship toy, with features like dual stimulation and synchronized sensations to enhance connection, no matter how you express intimacy.
5. “Lesbians Are Always Serious or Sarcastic”
Think about how often lesbians are portrayed as brooding intellectuals or dry-humored sidekicks in media. Sure, some of us have razor-sharp wit, but we also laugh, cry, goof off, and enjoy TikTok trends just like anyone else. At Eros Song, we’re all about celebrating joy and breaking free from these stiff molds.
6. “Lesbians All Want Kids”
While family-building is a beautiful journey for many, not every lesbian couple dreams of a house full of little ones. Some want to travel, focus on their careers, or just enjoy being a duo. The diversity of what a fulfilling life looks like is why our brand creates products that nurture connection, whether your family includes kids, pets, or just an army of houseplants.
7. “Lesbians Are Just ‘Trying It Out’”
The “phase” narrative is so overdone it’s practically vintage. The idea that lesbian identity is just a stepping stone to heterosexuality is both insulting and dismissive. Lesbians don’t exist to spice up sweeps week or fulfill male fantasies. Our love is real, valid, and deserving of authentic representation.
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At SAPHETTE (formerly Eros Song), we’re committed to smashing these outdated clichés and creating a space where all lesbians feel seen, respected, and celebrated. Our flagship toy, Doupeak, is designed with versatility in mind, recognizing the diverse ways queer women connect emotionally and physically. Whether you’re a pillow princess, a stone top, or somewhere in between, our toys adapt to your unique dynamics—because every story is worth honoring.
It’s time to let go of stereotypes and embrace the depth, creativity, and joy of the lesbian community. After all, we’re so much more than tired tropes. Let’s build a world (and a media landscape) that reflects the vibrant reality.
What stereotypes have you encountered that need to go? Let us know—we love to keep the conversation going!
