If you’re doing it right, it’s not awkward—it’s hot.
What Is Scissoring, Really?
Scissoring (sometimes spelled scisoring or even scisdoring) is one of the most widely known yet most misunderstood lesbian sex positions. Thanks to pop culture (looking at you, Blue Is the Warmest Colour), many people assume it's the go-to lesbian move.
But ask around in the queer community, and the response will vary from “I love it” to “I’ve never tried it”—and both are valid.
So, what actually is scissoring? Does it feel good? And how can you do it comfortably and confidently?
Let’s break it down.
What Scissoring Is — and Isn’t
Scissoring typically involves two people positioning their vulvas together, often with interlocking legs—like the blades of scissors (hence the name). The goal is direct clitoral stimulation through grinding, pressure, and shared rhythm.
But let’s get something clear:
Scissoring isn’t required lesbian sex. It’s just one of many ways queer folks connect.
According to Grazia, scissoring is often confused with tribbing, which refers more broadly to any rubbing (of vulvas, thighs, body) for stimulation. They can overlap, but they’re not identical.
Why Some Lesbians Love It (And Some Don’t)
In a Healthline article, sex educators emphasize that pleasure depends on anatomy, positioning, and emotional connection. For some couples, scissoring delivers deep, intimate contact. For others, it might feel more awkward than arousing.
Scissoring is:
✔ Great for clitoral-on-clitoral stimulation
✔ Visually intimate and affirming
✔ Ideal when both partners want mutual grinding and rhythm
It might not be the best choice if:
✘ Your bodies don’t align easily
✘ You’re looking for deeper penetration
✘ You feel pressure to perform it vs. enjoy it
Variations to Try (That Actually Work)
Every body is different. Here are a few scissoring-inspired positions that offer more comfort, access, and pleasure:
1. Side-by-Side Grind
Lie facing each other and tangle your legs loosely. Use pillows for lower back support and keep movement gentle.
2. Modified T-Shape
One partner lies down, the other rotates to a 90-degree angle for more pressure and leverage.
3. Butterfly Legs
Both lie on your backs, knees up, with hips tilted slightly. Let your vulvas meet and explore movement together.
4. Vibe-Boosted Trib
Use a slim external vibrator like Duopeak between your bodies for enhanced stimulation.
Tips for Comfort and Connection
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Warm up first. Mutual massage, oral, or a toy session can get your body ready.
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Lube is your best friend. It reduces friction and increases glide.
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Talk as you go. Queer sex isn’t silent or scripted—ask what feels good.
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Use pillows. Under your hips, thighs, or back—comfort = pleasure.
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Try toys. Slim strap-ons or double-ended dildos can add more intensity.
Scissoring is about exploration, not performance.
So… Should You Try It?
Only if you want to.
Scissoring is a beautiful, body-positive way to connect when it’s done with intention, curiosity, and good vibes (and lube).
No one can define queer sex but you.
