Lesbian sex can involve many kinds of play. One of them is penetrative sex with lesbian sex toys. Some think using a dildo and harness means wanting a man.
That’s false. Queer people enjoy many things. Toys don’t define identity. Let's explore the strap on and strap off with SAPHETTE (formerly Eros Song).
What Is It?
A dildo and harness set lets one person give penetration. The receiving partner may enjoy vaginal penetration or anal play. Some prefer vibrators strap or double-ended toys. It depends on your body and needs.
Why Use Toys in Lesbian Sex?
Pleasure. Connection. Control.
Some people want clitoral stimulation. Others want deep spot stimulation. Toys for lesbians can offer all that. Some also help with gender expression.
Toys can also support trust and intimacy between partners. Exploring them together can lead to stronger communication.
Breaking the Myths
Enjoying sex toys doesn’t mean someone isn’t queer. Wanting anal penetration or vaginal play isn’t about men.
Lesbian sex toys are for lesbians. Period. These myths can create shame. It's time we move past them. Lesbian sex includes many expressions.
What the Numbers Say
A 2015 survey by Autostraddle said 58.8% of lesbians enjoy dildo and harness play.
Shows like Real Sex say the same. Queer people are using more sex toys—and loving them. These numbers prove that strap-on harnesses and similar tools are not niche. They're common in queer sex life.
Choosing the Right Gear
Try medical grade silicone. It’s safe and soft. Think about bullet vibrators or vibrators dildos if you want extra stimulation.
Start with simple designs. Move up as you explore.
A vibrating strap or strapless model may feel right for you. Or try boxer-style harnesses for comfort. Choose gear that feels good and looks good. Confidence matters.
Lesbian strap on double ended dildo, Duopeak (Doupeak) is also a choice. It's the world first AI-chip powered lesbian toys, designed by SAPHETTE. It can synchronise the motion and vibration, allowing you and your partner feel the same sexual pleasure.
Talk and Try
Before using a toy, talk to your partner. Share what feels good.
Communication leads to better sex. Don’t rush. Focus on connection. Ask how it feels. Adjust as you go. Being present matters more than getting it perfect.
Add Some Extras
You can use a butt plug, bullet vibrator, or vibrating strap.
Use water-based lube. It helps with comfort.
Some toys offer double stimulation—one end for you, one for your partner.
Accessories can enhance closeness. If you're looking to experiment, toys like harness-compatible vibrators or textured dildos bring variety.
Tips for First Time Use
Wear the gear by yourself first. Learn how it moves. Try solo play. Then invite your partner in.
Go slow. Have fun. Use mirrors to check your fit. Stretch before you play.
Some lesbian sex positions may take adjusting. Don't worry if it feels awkward. That’s normal. With time, your body adapts.
Sex and Gender Feelings
For some, toys help affirm gender.
It’s not about changing who you are. It’s about feeling good in your body. Toys can help reduce dysphoria. They can also help express your identity with confidence.
Being seen in your desires is healing. It can shift your connection to your body in affirming ways.
Your Body, Your Choice
Lesbian sex poses are flexible. You choose what feels right. Whether it’s a lesbian dildo or a bullet vibe, it’s your choice.
Don’t worry about labels. You don’t have to justify what gives you pleasure. Every body is different. Every connection is unique.
Explore Erogenous Zones
Toys aren't only for penetration. Explore erogenous zones. Use toys on nipples, thighs, necks.
A vibrator can tease many areas. Think beyond just one goal. Pleasure can happen all over the body. This kind of exploration builds trust and discovery.
It's a journey, not a checklist.
Support and Resources
Not sure what to buy? Check here, best lesbian sex toys.
You can also watch queer-friendly content. Read reviews. Use resources made for lesbians. Talk to others you trust. Sharing stories makes the experience less isolating.
Feel Empowered
Owning your sex life is power. You get to explore, experiment, and express. There’s no right way to enjoy lesbian sex.
If it feels good and it’s consensual, it’s right. You deserve pleasure. And you get to decide what that looks like.
