It felt like admiration until I imagined kissing her—and I didn’t flinch.
Whether you're fresh off your first girl crush or deep in the rabbit hole of queer TikTok, questioning your sexuality can be equal parts exciting and overwhelming.
At SAPHETTE, we know how personal this journey is. As a lesbian-owned brand designing pleasure products for WLW, we believe that exploring desire—and identity—should always come with tenderness, freedom, and zero shame.
Crush vs. Queer: What’s the Difference?
We’re taught early on that it’s “normal” to admire women—maybe she's pretty, stylish, or just cool. But when that admiration starts to blur into longing, obsession, or daydreams about being more than friends—that’s where the crush-o-meter starts buzzing.
Here are a few signs your feelings might be pointing to something deeper than a platonic girl crush:
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You feel nervous around her in a way that’s charged—not just excited.
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You find yourself thinking about physical closeness: holding hands, cuddling, even kissing.
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You feel jealous when she dates men.
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You daydream about futures together that feel romantic, not sisterly.
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You wonder what it would feel like to be with a woman—emotionally and sexually.
If you’ve nodded along to even a few of these… you’re not alone.
“Am I Queer?” Is a Valid, Beautiful Question
Identifying as lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, or queer isn’t something you earn with experience—it’s something you feel in your bones. You don’t need a long dating history or a single definitive moment to validate your identity.
Your queerness doesn’t have to be loud or perfectly defined. It’s allowed to be soft, fluid, and evolving.
At SAPHETTE, we celebrate this questioning stage—because it’s not confusion, it’s becoming.
WLW Feelings Are Real—And Powerful
Women-loving-women relationships (WLW) come in many forms: romantic, sexual, emotional, or all of the above. Your feelings are valid even if they haven’t been reciprocated, acted on, or labeled.
For many of us, realizing we’re queer happens slowly, like fog lifting. Maybe it’s watching your favorite lesbian film and feeling seen. Maybe it’s getting butterflies when a friend tucks your hair behind your ear. Maybe it’s reading this and realizing… yeah, it’s not “just a phase.”
Exploring Queerness Through Pleasure
We don’t always talk about how self-discovery can be sensual, too. Getting to know your body—and what feels good to you—can be a powerful, affirming part of claiming your identity.
SAPHETTE’s lesbian sex toys are designed with you in mind. No assumptions. No male gaze. Just playful, empowering tools to help you connect with your desires in a way that’s safe, sapphic, and celebratory.
Our bestselling harness Aura was designed for first-timers and seasoned tops alike, and our compact Duopeak is perfect for exploring partner play that centers lesbian pleasure—no awkward positioning, no straight assumptions.
Give Yourself Time. You Don’t Need All the Answers Now.
Here’s what we know: labels can be helpful, but they don’t define you. What matters is that you’re curious, open, and honoring what you feel. Whether you land on “lesbian,” “bi,” “sapphic,” or “just figuring it out,” you’re part of a vibrant, loving community.
At SAPHETTE, we’re here for you—at every stage of your queer journey. From your first “what if?” to your most empowered “hell yes.”
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